"Freedom" to ME and YOU.

Its been 67 years of Independence and we are marching towards 68, and 26 years of my life, i have been part of the glorious Independence day!

Sometimes be a "LONER" !

Have you ever felt the silence when the light goes off?, the silence when the door, behind you shuts? There is something in that moment of silence, there is something absurd but at the same time something comforting.

Is womanhood,The new Mantra of Bollywood movies?

 

 

 

 

In the year 2014,Bollywood has seen a series of woman centered movies.Movies celebrating womanhood,movies on women related issues,movies on women in politics or as simple as celebrating their aspirations.Movies made in this genre has not only got them into the game but also the name and fame.

Movie review: "Bobby Jasoos"

Vidya Balan starrer "Bobby Jasoos" is a story of young girl who aspires to become a detective and her journey in becoming one. Its a clean entertainer. Set up in the oldest city of Hyderabad,the Urdu influenced Hindi, the colourful Salwaars, Vidya's amazing acting,and her different disguises,Fathers concern and love,all of these keeps you stuck to the movie.You get to see the amazing Vidya Balan,at ease with the Hyderabadi Hindi.

The story evolves around Bobby "the wannabe detective" and Aneez Khan, who hires her and gives her,her first assignment and many more after those. The story keeps you stuck to your seats in the first half,However if you are expecting the suspense in the movie just Like "Kahaani",then you will be disappointing yourself.The second Half of the movie is a bit slow.

On the whole, the aspiration of a young Hyderbadi, lower middle class girl and her journey through it, is a one time watch.

Acting: 3 on 5

Story line: 2 and half on 5

Story telling: 2 and half

 

What is a Supermoon?

It was recently that i came to know that a word like Supermoon existed.I was ignorant about anything related to Astronomy, all my life.

Recently there were photos all over the news feed in my Facebook which did, mention the word "SUPERMOON". At first it did take me to surprise,so i went out and checked as to what is it all about.When i couldn't make any significant difference,i googled.

For all problems in your life "GOOGLE" :).

DEFINITION:The Moon's distance varies each month between approximately 357,000 kilometers (222,000 mi) and 406,000 km (252,000 mi) due to its elliptical orbit around the earth (distances given are center-to-center).

According to NASA, a full moon at perigee is up to 14% larger and 30% brighter than one at its farthest point, or apogee.

Let me put it in simple words,Its the coincidence, when a full moon comes close to earth in its elliptical orbit resulting in making it look very big when seen from earth.Probably,I would have been able to appreciate it,if i ever had spent time watching moon.

The association of the Moon with both oceanic and crustal tides has led to claims that the Supermoon phenomenon may be associated with increased risk of earthquakes and volcanic eruptions, but there has been, no evidence established to support the same.

There has been claims that natural disasters such as Tsunami in Tohoku in 2011,and Tsunami and Earthquake in Indian ocean,in 2004 were caused by the Supermoon.These were linked 1-2 week period surrounding a Supermoon.

The most recent occurrence was on August 10, 2014. The next and closest Supermoon of 2014 will be on September 9.

So grab your Cameras,adjust the settings,and capture the "Beauty with spots"!

Courtesy:www.wikipedia.com

"Never judge the Book, by its Cover" !

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With all the imperfections on the moon surface,its still considered the most "beautiful"![/caption]

 

 

"Anandmela- Joyful Festival Of India"

Just how the aroma of the coffee can refresh you, there was something, I experienced this week. Something refreshing, something soulfully making me feel, I was an Indian. After a year of stay in US, I rarely see, young Indians in Indian attire but that day, I could see women and young girls in kurti’s, kali’s and sari’s.

"Free Soul"

[caption id="attachment_398" align="alignleft" width="201"] Woman and beauty exist together! Sad part, is we are always described as BEAUTIFUL and rarely described as STRONG or even as a FREE SOUL.[/caption]

 

 

 

 

Day 7-Writing challenge, "The story of you and me"

The story of you and me started three years back in 2011 when we met each other for the first time near our college. I still remember the first meet, and the consecutive meets there after.That day, it was raining "cats and dogs" and i was waiting in the bus stop after work, half drenched, in a green dress, holding my favorite blue umbrella, waiting for the usual bus to get back home and saw you for the first time. U were weird, almost fully drenched, actually dancing or i may say turning round and round in rain.You came and stood beside me, all drenched.

We hopped, coincidentally into the same bus.Since there wasn't any seats vacant, we guys stood, and as usual by the time i could close my umbrella, the bus started to move,and it became difficult , the ice broke, and we talked.

You:  Need a hand?

Me:   With a smile on my face i nodded my head.(Thoughts running at the back of my mind, Wow what a voice!)

You: There you go! (with a smile you handed over the umbrella to me after closing it)

Me:   (whispered) Thank you.

You:  Its a nice weather outside. Isn't it?

Me:   Oh yes!Certainly it is!(Back of my mind,why is he talking to me,Girl, stop don't talk to strangers)

You:  You think i am weird?Right?

Magic!

"There is one part of the world which is Imaginary,Secretive and Mysterious, just like the undiscovered and untold truth of our Souls."

Solace to your EYES!

White has it all...I must say!!A soothing color to your EYES and to your SOUL

Day 6-Writing challenge "The little boy next door"

Sometimes probably favors done without any expectation or a smile from a stranger when you are heading back from a long day's work or probably an act of kindness just makes you feel lighter and probably this is what i felt a few days back.

I stay in a community here and after a long day,when i got back i was tired, kinda irritated. Probably the monotony in life, had made me like that. I got freshened up and just stepped out to sit in the patio.

I saw a little one playing in the community garden. It was weird, to see him sitting in a corner, looking at the ground. I observed him, probably for ten minutes then couldn't stop myself,so walked towards him and asked him."Hey there! ,what you looking at?" and he looked at me and said,"Hey! can you see those ants?, they all are going in a straight line!I just smiled and said "Oh yes, they are!." Probably i spent the next 1 hour with him doing absolutely nothing, but only staring those.The way he looked at it, popping his eyes out, everything he used to touch, feel, and those wondering eyes everything made me feel one thing. The way he looked at the world was totally different.

Welcome the NEW!

Here comes the spring!!!....

Cheers to the new colors,
Cheers to the new aspirations,
Cheers to the new dreams,
Cheers to Us......

Day 5 -Writing challenge, "Genie in the bottle"

Its spring time and you heart jumps to bask in the sun, and that's what i did, had a refreshing walk along the Alki Beach in Seattle.The view of the concrete jungle-"the Downtown" from Alki beach has a total different dimension. You look from far, the place you work, you slog and where your sweat turns into bread and much more. With all these feelings,striking my head on the way back, i found a Genie,in the bottle!! I know I know,i see a very big exclamatory mark on your face,but frankly i did.I saw a fine wine bottle inside which i found the Genie.

Seas and oceans have always hid the biggest of secrets within themselves and probably this was one of them. A bottle had surfaced on the banks, and i could see,  it was kinda old, probably a year or two or may be even three. It was the fine bottle of wine. What makes me say that?, hmmm it was Diageo brand from London. One of the finest wines to be tasted in all times. If you ask me did it travel all the way from London to Alki beach? I would probably say no.

More than the brand of the bottle i was Interested in what was inside.Any guesses,Surely there wasn't any wine but there was a Piece of paper which had a few scribbling's in black.As the sun set i sat alone,ready to read that piece of paper which had just made its way, out of the beach.

It read,

To my dear Love,

I love you,probably for a zillion reasons in the world but if you ask me to prove it, probably i cant. I liked you the day i saw you for the first time, you smiled and you knew right away.

But i hurt you, moved away, left you alone but trust me i have not moved on. I let you down, when i had to stick beside you and yes you may, hate me for this and may not forgive me.You tell, i just give reasons,yes there were reasons then, now and probably will always be.You are an awesome guy for any girl and i was stupid to loose you.But i had my reasons.

Do the reasons justify the hurt. No, they don't. I will never be able to forgive myself for the pain i gave you, but there can be no one else who can possibly love you, like me.Your are not there with me now, probably what i am saying right now, may never reach you,but this is how i feel,i love you but have realized, some people just get to stay in your heart and not in your lives.

Hoping to be yours soon,and the soon is the next lifetime, Don't want it to get delayed than this.Here's wishing you loads of happiness all your life, from the most unfortunate and as u say the most "Unfaithful" girl u met in your life.

Loads of Love,

Genie.

As i read, i could sense that my eyes teared, i wished, she at least had a chance to tell this in person to the man she loved the most. I wish this reaches to that special person ,i wish that person reads and i also wish that person understands her. As she said the hurt can't be justified by saying "I love you still", but the act of regretting your mistake can justify the love and respect for that special person.

Walking back, i just realized, "Some people just get to stay in your hearts and not in your lives".

 

Day 4 -Writing 101 challenge , "Lost and Found !"(The Serial killer)

They say "Memories are special moments that tell our Story".Very true isn't it, memories makes our story ,they can be sweet,bitter,memories of love,friendship,distrust,heart break and possibly anything and everything. Every moment we spend in present becomes a memory from the past.

 

Cleaning my closet has always been a pain.I hate cleaning them.By the time i finish, i would either be frustrated, irritated and what not. It so happened that i started to clean my closet, this time when i was back in India and for a surprise by the end of the painful cleaning session, i was actually smiling.

 

Reason, was an awesome letter which i found, written by the most awesomest person i have ever met in my life. This letter has a history of 11 years.When i found this i was shocked,i had kept it so neatly in a box which had a friendship band,a greeting card and a hand written letter from that special person.The person with whom i spent the most wonderful 3 years of my adolescence. The journey of understanding whats right or wrong probably started then, with her.

 

She was a gal with a boy cut, fair looking, intelligent and who always spoke her mind.The one who was always behind me,telling me to control my short temper ,in fact sometimes even became the victim of it.But she was always there,She stuck by me all time.

 

She wrote this letter to me when we were in the tenth grade,probably i wouldn't be able to share every bit of it, as she says its "HIGHLY CONFIDENTIAL".This was written to tell me,probably make me understand that she missed me as a friend in that year.She also said that it was my actions which made her feel that the closeness of us as best friends was getting lost.

 

She is someone who usually doesn't express her sad feelings openly unlike me.The best part about the letter is when she says that she felt that my closeness with another girl with whom even she was friends, made her feel left out.Probably this is something we all have experienced once, in our life time.

 

Today after 11 years when i look back, the journey is been long, i had or in fact have some of the very incredible friendships which has been with me supporting me,molding me at every stage of my life. As soon as i found this letter i pinged her on the social media,Thanks to Mr  Mark Zuckerberg that i am still connected with these bunch of people who have made the moments of my life into the most beautiful memories.

 

All she had to say is ARE YOU SERIOUS? DO U STILL HAVE THAT? Yes girl i do.

Day 3 - Writing 101 challenge ," Songs of my life "

"Music is what, the feelings sound like". Music is Universal,has no bars of caste, creed, language, culture, race, rich and poor. Music is a language which is understood by anyone and everyone across the globe. In the same way, music for me has had a great impact in my life in the most important ages of my life.The three songs which had and has been my favorite and have had a series of life changing impacts on me.

 

As a kid, i liked to listen to stories,and my mother made sure i listened to at least one everyday.The most favorite story of mine and my brother's was the story of "Punyakoti". This was narrated in the form of a song to us. It was a moral story about a cow, which came back to the tiger which was waiting to eat it, only because of the promise which was made by it to the tiger.The story depicts that Honesty is the best policy.

Punyakoti

 

As an adolescent when i was growing,and was in my teens, i was influenced by the song called "Araluvu hoovugale".This song was about how to get over the disabilities and achieve the dream of yours. It clearly explains that failure is common and something, which has to be overcome. This song had a lot to play and still has a lot of impact in my life.This song has and is still inspiring the things i have achieved or still the one which have to be achieved.

Araluva hoovugale

 

As i grew older i loved the song "vizhi moodi".This was a romantic melodious song which explained the feelings of the person in love with the other.This song has fonder memories to it. Memories for a life time. As soon as you listen to this song the thoughts of that special person creeps in.

vizhi moodi

 

These songs have had their impacts in all the ages of my life positively. Music is that which comes from the soul and reaches the soul. Music is for all age groups old and young.

 

"So today, sit back and enjoy by listening to your favorite song and relive, the memories again".

Day 2- Writing 101 challenge "A room with a view"

Alas have found my solace. In what?,Certainly in writing. I m mostly in my room stuck up scribbling, fumbling and some times nibbling.

Its morning 5 and you can see that the lights of my room are still on. Probably you may wonder that I am an early bird, which I am and don't disagree but  the half sipped hot coffee in the black mug on my red desk, my undone hair falling all over my face, my clean unused bed with the pillows in place and the headphones buzzing with the Animal song from Salvage Garden suggests something else.

 

Oh yes!! I haven't slept, have been insomniac all night, not because i dint get sleep but because of a thought.The thought as to what makes anyone happy! Is it money, love, success,what is it?What comforts them?Is it the time when they are in love,when they have money or when they are successful?

 

It's been raining all night like cats and dogs and since I live in a community away from Downtown,once its dark and starts raining I get to see only few people walking around.

It started to rain around 8, in the evening yesterday and continued till midnight non-stop.

 

But in the mid-night when the rain stopped and i gazed through my window of my room, the skies cleared showing up the moon. The dark night had its impact, though darkness is always creepy that day the sky looked beautifully magical.The stars around the moon here and there shining or probably talking to each other.The moon was the vivid listener.The fresh smell of mud and the cool breeze splashing on my face lightened me up.

 

As I gazed, a sense of happiness, comfort to my eyes and a sense of awareness about appreciating the nature around you crept into me.It took me,a solid two and a half hot mug of coffees all night ,and the beautiful view, to make me realize, happiness was in the smallest of things, just like that one hot mug of coffee in a rainy day, getting a place to sit when you are shopping with your wife, the joy of wearing your dry pants directly from the washing machine, the smell of the mud after a heavy rain, the walk with your loved one, the first time you swam and probably many more.

 

"So guys appreciate those little things which make you happy and for me, my room ,my laptop,the hot coffee mug and my scribbles get me solace".

Day 1- Writing 101 challenge " Unlock your mind and Soul "

“There is one part of the world which is Imaginary,Secretive and Mysterious, just like the Undiscovered and Untold truth of our Souls.”

Very true!! There is a certain part in all of us which we keep to ourselves, we hide it from others and we nurture it alone. The reason why we do it are many. More than the reasons why we hide, the point what we hide becomes important and from whom. Sometimes we hide ourselves from discovering it, probably because we have no spine to face them. Sometimes we are scared about the so called "Society". And sometimes we think we become vulnerable by sharing those.

There may be the one part of you who just wants to travel, the part of you who wants to give up his/her job and start writing, part of you who wants to follow his/her passion of cooking,and probably that part of you who wants to just be single. It can be anything, starting from what you want to do, to what u think and precept, to what u behave and enact.

 

There are a set of people who have tried to hide and have accepted the usual SOCIAL NORMS made by someone, for whom living a life with security was the WAY OF LIFE. And some people don't even try to discover what they want and just time in and out, they follow what every one does, thinks and talks.

There is something which is magical, cynical and probably the most emotional part of ours which we hide from others and probably we hide it for a zillion reasons.

There is a very interesting part or i may say, the other way of looking at it, probably the way I do. Sharing what u think always to the world is probably not so important but having an opinion of your own, which may or may not be with the crowd, is very important.

 

I hide it it too, most of my thoughts get onto my blog, or into my diaries. But whats important is they can remain to be undiscovered and untold to the world but not to yourself.

 

So today, take some time off, sit back, relax, discover that part of yours which has been hid and those truths of your soul which remain to be untold, respect and accept yourself for what you feel ,think or do. I just did and it makes me feel "GREAT".

"Last Meet"

Oh My god,is the sun out,

Here I am all set with a pout;

Waiting to meet my man,

I am scared would i get tanned.

 

Waiting for you in the coffee shop,

I rolled my hair to make a bun on top;

Was it the love crime?

Cause the color of our dress rhymed.

 

We sat down,

Forgetting all the frown;

Looking at each other,

We burst out in laughter.

 

We promised not to fight

We had to set, everything right;

So we started with the usual stuff,

And discussed about the weather so rough.

 

Then you said,things,

I nervously started to roll my rings;

It was the last meet you said

My love life had just end.

 

You said you won't meet me ever,

I said never say never ever;

You told me to be practical

And not emotional

 

I asked why all this now,

What shall i do with the love;

You said keep it aside,

Don't show it outside.

 

You said am your past now,

So stop,let this go;

Don't mix it with your present,

keep me in dreams, as your crescent.

 

How to forget that special one?

Easier said, than done;

The one, who was my smile,

How to hide him in my heart even for a while?

"Last Meet"

Oh My god,is the sun out,

Here I am, all set with a pout;

Waiting to meet my man,

I am scared, would i get tanned!

 

Waiting for you, in the coffee shop,

i rolled my hair, to make a bun on top;

was it the love crime?

cos the color of our dress, rhymed.

 

We sat down,

forgetting all the frown;

Looking at each other,

We burst out in laughter.

 

We promised not to fight

We had to set, everything right;

So we started with the usual stuff,

And discussed, about the weather so rough.

 

Then you said,things,

I nervously started to roll my rings;

It was the last meet you said,

My love life had just end.

 

You said you won't meet me ever,

I said never say never ever;

You told me to be practical

And not emotional

 

I asked why all this now?

What shall i do with the love?

You said, keep it aside,

Don't show it outside.

 

You said am your past now,

So stop,let this go;

Don't mix it with your present,

Keep me in dreams, as your crescent.

 

How to forget that special one?

Easier said, than done;

The one, who was my smile,

How to hide him in my heart even for a while?

"Love ka, THE END"

Oh yes its the end of us,

You told to move on;

Don't create a fuss,

Holding on!

You asked what is the use of such a love,

Which never gave any happiness;

Its was and is my rainbow,

Giving me,eternal bliss!

Oh yes its the end of us,

You told to move on;

Don't create a fuss,

Holding on!

Please stop,don't taunt,

Still there is the magical connection;

You are still the smile, i want,

With you around, life is a celebration,

Oh yes its the end of us,

You told to move on;

Don't create a fuss,

Holding on!

OK lets move on,

Lets forget we met,

Lets forget we were, a set

But wait,

What to do with the love i have in me for you,

How do i get rid, of these?

What to do with the memories of you,me and love,

How do i get these feelings to freeze?

Does the love end after a break up?

After having a conversation with someone very close, i started to wonder what happens to love, after break-up? When you love someone and you break-up where does the love go? Does it go away, with that very special person?

Karma Calling...

Its the call of Karma again,

Is it the fall of Dharma reign?

They say What goes around comes around?

Is it why the Earth is round?

I have often heard people talking about Karma, quoting " Its all because of your past Karma, that you are facing all these problems in the present ".This has always made me think , how can our past actions, in the current life and the past lives have an impact on our current life ?

How can this happen?, Is there someone handling this or there is someone ticking and making a list of your goods and bad. Don't know ! But the urge to know what is karma and does it have an impact?, has made me look into several books and articles.

So what is KARMA?

In simplest term, Karma means natural Law. Any thought or an act or deed which causes an effect or a reaction can be called "Karma".

What Impact does the Karma have on Us?

The law of Karma is the " Law of Causation ".

For example,you sow a seed(Action) ,it grows to be a plant(Reaction). It can be said that each action of our's either in thought or deed has a certain effect on who we are, and who we become. It is similar to Newton's third law of motion which states," For every Action there is an equal and opposite Reaction ".

Three different types of Karma, mentioned in the Indian Philosophy.

• Sanchita karma, This is the first form of Karma which is in the seed state. This karma is dormant and has not yet started to mature and is the accumulated karma from this life and past life actions.


• Kriyamana karma,This is the second form of Karma which is the current day to day karma that we perform today, and are shaping, which are soon to become seeds. Consider that these latent seeds will eventually reach maturity, and sprout at a future time, in life.


• Prarabdha karma,This is the third form of Karma that has formed from mature seeds of the Sanchita Karma and is now active in our daily life. It is the resultant derived from the seeds sown from past actions.

 

So in brief, every action or thought of ours,which is good has a good result. And every, bad thought or action has a bad result or consequence to face. Karma is not a Moral Law. It has nothing to do with punishments or rewards.

It is just our actions or deeds whose consequences we got to bear.So your action makes you what you are.

So Think Good,

Be Good and

Do Good 

Wind, Window, Wane!!

This is an Experimental Start, in the Blogging World !!!
We have tried to add different views to the same post, sectioning different parts to different people and finally look at the post in whole.

The first part was written by my Blogger friend and husband Anil Kulkarni. And the Part 2 by me.

Part 1: You can find the first part on anilwrites.blogspot.in/2012/04/wind-window-and.html

Contn'd Part 2:

The fragrance of her hair, hummmm I can still smell. It was so refreshing. I wanted to just get off my seat, go and sit with her, talk and touch her hands. My bus usually reaches bus bay by 9 pm in the morning and I still had 45 min left, to talk to her. I dint want to miss this chance, but I could not gather the guts to go and talk to her. So, I thought “OK let me talk to her after we get down from bus”.

Wind, Window, Wane !!!

Are you a Virgin?

 

Are you a virgin?

Is it important than my origin?

I want you to know,

Please listen,don't go

 

Don't be a hypocrite,

Because i want to share my secret,

I had a past,

Which din't last.

 

In the name of love,

Had my feelings shove,

Had my clothes shed,

We did share the bed.

 

Let me tell you first,

It wasn't lust,

It just passed away,

Before i could make hay.

 

Its been more than a year now,

No signs of the old love show,

Its the end ,

have no plans to mend.

 

Here i am starting fresh,

And there is no rush,

Waiting for someone special,

And the love to happen in real.

Gone are the days!!!

 

Gone are the days,

When women covered their faces under the veils,

When they knew less about the hymen,

And no idea about the semen .

 

In the love game,

Women go nude,

Then Because of shame,

They brood.

 

Now are the days,

when there is a virginity call,

In the marriage race,

No one wants to fall.

 

There are hymenoplasties done,

For all the fun ,

Truth isn't accepted by none ,

Everyone portrays to be a Nun

Virginity !!!! Is it overrated ?

Well-known philosopher and writer Voltaire once said:  ," It is an infantile superstition of the human spirit that virginity would be thought a virtue and not the barrier that separates ignorance from knowledge." 

IS  VIRGINITY OVERRATED ? HOW? Yes, it is Overrated because, WE ARE LIVING IN THE MYTH. What was once considered a great deal has now become a word that's used very commonly and mostly among, girls ! The word is "Hymenoplasty". They all live in the myth that a broken hymen is because of intercourse, and they are getting it done because their prospective husbands will not accept them if the truth about their hymen was out.

Scientifically, hymen can rupture for the following reasons:

• Active swimmer


• Horse riding


• Riding bikes


• Athletic person


• Sex

Not only sex, but a lot of other reasons can cause the rupture. At the same time the most commonest reason for the rupture still remains to be SEX.

BREAK THE ICE! 

It's important to discuss,this is not something you run away from,this is something, you talk. Why we should talk? Because A hymen can be ruptured due to several reasons and sexual intercourse is just one of them. But, girls and boys know of only one reason and insist on getting it restored. This is the reason, why sex education becomes so important." Speaking of confusion that resides, not only in the minds of  youngsters, but also parents", Parents themselves are often confused as to what is the right age for them to talk 'sex' with their children.The only solution for this being, meet a counselor and take suggestions, and talk to your kids about the ill effects of the Pre-marital sex.'

 WHERE IS THE BALANCE? 

 We are still living in the dangerous double standard world where in still, the male supreme attitude prevails.

                                "Being Virgin is the best gift you can give to your husband", What about your wife?

 I read this quote, somewhere online.When ever the word virginity comes out, its only spoken in relation to a girl. If it's a virtue for the girl , then it should be a virtue for the boy too. Where is the equality?. To be or not to be a virgin, is a different question, why this hypocrisy?

Please Follow what you preach!!!

TO BE OR NOT TO BE ?

It still remains a personal choice,but a piece of tissue can't be a virtue, Because the reasons how it can be lost are many, other than the sexual intercourse. It's not the question of a piece of tissue, but a personal choice," Some have happily lost, some have lost it in Love, some for Lust and others have zipped it up,waiting for that special one".

[AM not here to support pre-marital sex, MY CONCERN is ignorance about the topic among young boys and girls , hypocrisy and the confusion among parents.]

" It is one of the superstitions of the human mind to have imagined that virginity could be a virtue "

-Voltaire

Useful links if you wan to know more about hymen and hymenoplasty:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymen

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymenorrhaphy

" The First Dance "

I still remember, the first dance,
And, the first glance,
You pulled me, towards you,
And the love sparks flew,

Hand in hand, we stood,
Was this meant for good?,
You turned me round and round,
My feet weren't on the ground,

My heart, skipped a beat,
When u lifted me, off my feet,
Every step we danced, was like a mystery,
I must say, we had the finest chemistry.

" BIRTH and DEATH- The Two Sides of the Coin called LIFE "

" Life didn't teach you something, you just learn from it."

 

I don't know who quoted these lines, it was in the collection of Quotes on Life which i have. Probably,till date had not understood or in fact experienced what the quote meant. It was just in a minute that my entire world, stumbled down to pieces and i understood what it meant.

 

" We always feel, that we are controlling life,but its never WE ". We plan every night as to what should be cooked?,what to wear to work? and much more. But what if we don't get up the next morning?

 

This is what i experienced, I lost one of my loved one, unexpectedly. I was there for his last rituals and at the same time there was a new birth of a baby boy in my family, in the same hospital where i lost my loved one.

 

I was shattered, after the death of my loved one, i felt that's the end of my world, but world dint stop ,neither did my work. Everything went on to be the same ,Life doesn't wait for anyone.Then Life, itself gave me the reason to smile in the sorrow and the reason was, a new member in the family.

 

Life's weird, I visited India to be with the new arrived soul and to give a farewell to the old departing soul. Life slapped me with the tears, of both happiness and sadness.

Yes,this is life,it moves on and we all are moving towards one thing which we all know but we never talk about it "The Death"

 

Each day we spend we are heading towards that unspoken truth of the Life,"The Death". Aren't WE?

 

Should this discourage us? "NO", the pain of loosing someone is immense and that place can never be refilled by any joy but LIFE's like this,Its a cycle of the old and new souls.The faster you accept ,sooner you will understand the worth of every minute of your LIFE. And you "LIVE LIKE, YOU ARE ALIVE EVERY MINUTE ".

Is an Extramarital Affair always "Physical" ?

An Extra-marital affair need not always be, Physical.There can be an Emotional Infidelity which crops in eventually. In an emotional affair, one person relies on some other person outside the marriage for their emotional needs.

These kind of affairs are difficult and sometimes don't end because of the Emotional dependence on that X person outside the marriage.This is worst than the Physical Dependence. 

 

Common reasons as to why it occurs?

The growing Emotional distance between Spouses becomes the most important reason and this may occur because of many underlying reasons:

• The competitive work pressures,which keep either of the spouse away from the home.
• The distance which is created when there is a power struggle situation,automatically the other person withdraws from the spouse who tries to control.
• The less reciprocation nature of either of the spouses.
• And many more nothing specific.

        

Looking for Solution:

• First and foremost. Identify the problem and the wish to solve it.
• Then the means by which u contact that "x" person, keep them at a distance.
• Start fresh. Look at each of your positives.
• Take up new hobbies.
• Take tours with your spouse.
• Discuss your emotional needs.
• Be patient with each other and less offending.
• Remember and re-write your vows.

 

Remembering of the vows,"the seven vows in the Hindu Marriage" has answers to all the problems.

The seventh vow in that talks about the everlasting companionship and togetherness where in the bride and the bride-groom accept to live like friends, sharing the life's sorrows and joys.

"The Seven Sacred Vows" in a Hindu Marriage.

When it come to Indian Weddings words like, Big, Fat, Exuberant, Extravagant, Celebration, Dance, Music, Bright Colors, Saris, Mahendi, Jasmine, Roses, Fancy lights, Sweets and Amazing food comes to our mind.

 

Irrespective of the style and size of the Wedding, one thing remains to be common for all the Hindu Weddings and that is "The Seven Sacred Vows/ Sapthapadi /The seven Steps".These Vows are sworn, while the Bride-groom holds the little finger of the Bride and walks around the Fire or Agni.

 

This is one of the most important ritual in an Indian Hindu Wedding.The Seven Vows serve as a Guiding Principle for the Marriage.In simpler words, it guides both the Man and the Woman as to how they should live with each other, with mutual respect, love and care all Life.

 

Let us see the vows:

 

• First vow: With the first step they promise to provide Pure and Nourishing food.
• Second vow: With the second step they promise to develop Physical,Mental,Spiritual strength.
• Third vow: With the third step they promise to share the Worldly Pleasures.
• Fourth vow: With the fourth step they promise to acquire Knowledge,Happiness and Peace.
• Fifth vow: With the fifth step they promise to raise strong and Virtuous Children.
• Sixth vow: With the sixth step they promise to enjoy Fruits of all seasons together like Joys and Sorrows.
• Seventh vow: With the seventh step they promise to always remain Friends and Cherish each other all Life.

 

These vows were, and still are the Principle guidelines to lead a Happy Marriage.

 

"The each Vow taken is to be lived forever and more".

"Well,I will have you know ,I am as capable as any Man"

It was 01st of May, late night , I entered your womb Mother and my Journey in this so called Big,Mad,Mean yet Beautiful world started. I was 18 weeks old when you drank lots of water and you went to a room and lay down.There was an aunt in a white coat standing beside you,applying something on your tummy and there was some sound.

After that I could only hear you cry.I dint know why?. I saw you and father tensed, you were talking to the aunt in white coat .Then one fine day I was sucked out. I never stayed in your womb for nine months.

You killed me mother, because I was you.

Yes,I was a gal. If you had let me be alive,I would have grown to be a Young,Beautiful,Aspiring woman with self-respect, that I was You, I was a Woman.What makes me less than any man?
What made you and father kill me,when I am....

"ARE we becoming the Men, we wanted to Marry"

ARE we? Yes, we are. As a woman I am so proud to say it,but I also have certain concerns. This statement has two sides for it. One which we are to be proud of and one which scares us.The proud part being,woman in par with a man ,a world we all, had wished for,prayed for but that's the scary part too.

Why? Before knowing lets see how the word marriage, for women and men has evolved over years.

       Marriage THEN 

•     Poverty-too many kids at home,so child marriage got prevalent.Feeding all of the kids was difficult.So the girl kids were married off early.


•     Security-Once the gal attained the age of fertility,she was seen as a threat by her parents.They thought getting married would protect her from the threats in the society.


•     Society-Supreme Male attitude which existed then.Parents were scared of the society as discussed before.


•     Environment-the way the gal was brought up with no education,she was thought how to manage the household and was also told,that she was meant for only that and was supposed to be below men.
  Marriage of OUR Parents

•      Poverty still remained ,however some part of the women in the society were sent to school for basic education.


•      Security-the attitude remained to be the same as soon as these gals attained the fertility age,they were married off.


•      Society-Supreme Male attitude still existed .


•      Environment-minimum education was given in certain part of the society for women,but were still told that she was supposed to be below men.


•      Love ,affection, care existed but were not expressed and appreciated.
  Marriage NOW

•        Women now are working in par with men.


•        They need a person who respects them and their individuality.


•        Women now are looking at balancing both family and career.


•        Love,Affection and care is expressed and appreciated.


•        Now there are two equals in a marriage.No one is more ,no one is less.
  
  But one thing still remains the same,The Society,which is still stuck to the Male Supreme Attitude.And this part of the crowd are still not ready to accept that marriage or wedding happens or is meant to happen between two equal people.
  
  This attitude has made the empowered women retaliate,which has resulted in a increased number of Divorces.So here what scares us, the empowerment has changed the idea of marriage and if we don't balance it in the right way ,the day is not far when marriages are talked in past.The empowerment of women is good but the society not changing with the current scenario can have negative effects. The attitude of the current lot of women, towards the Marriage is changing exuberantly in a negative way.Youngsters are running away from only, the thought of Marriage.
  
  "A wedding or a marriage is not an arrangement between two unequal's but a marriage of two equal souls which binds, the two different families together and forever.Its a promise to live and enjoy the sorrows and the joys together all life forever".
  
  The sooner the Male Supreme attitude ends ,the sooner the balance will be regained.And marriage will still remain to be beautiful for us and for our children in coming years.

Was it Love ?

It was new ,

Just like dew ,

Had a smiling face ,

No worries to trace ,

What was the reason for the glowing luck ,

Was it the love bee which struck ,

Everything seemed so right ,

The moon light,sleepless nights,

The sun so bright and the silly fights.

Break up !!!

Don't feel sad

For things which are not in your hand,

Fall in love they say ,

Its like a hope of ray,

 

I did fall in love,

My world just shove,

Everything felt just right,

Until the freaky night,

 

When you just walked your way out,

I was still holding on in doubt,

Tried to explain what you meant to me,

But you were all set to flee.

Turned down!!

You and me can never be we,

I don't know if there is any destiny,

I don't want a love affair,

Don't want any worries to hire,

Keep it simple,

With a dimple,

Be my friend,

Till the end.

Dreams !!!

A cool breeze is splashing my Face,

Am preparing myself for the life's Race,

My dreams are like a beautiful Lace,

Running behind them in Pace,

To be the ACE.

 

Friend !!

We met by chance,

Chose to be friends, perhaps

Time just passed like a glance,

Being with you, was like trance.

Kiss of your Breath...

Kiss of your breath,
Is what i sense.
Have put in and around my heart ,
The fence of your sense.

My love

A little drizzle on the ground,
Makes my body turn round and round,
Missed your arms, around my waist,
Your heart is the place, where my soul rests.

" MAGICAL "

"There is one part of the world which is Imaginary,Secretive and Mysterious, just like the undiscovered and untold truth of our Souls."

" LIFE "

We all have problems !! Don't we?

The more u worry, more the Problems are .
U Relax and accept them , they Fade away.

First look! (was it meant to be?)

It was September
And I still remember!
I saw you for the first time,
Got entangled in this love crime.

I looked at you
The love sparks flew
You smiled, Cos you knew
I liked you.

It din't take a while to talk,
I still remember, our first walk.
There were the phone calls,
The first date in the mall.

Everything seemed just right
All the silly fights,
The thought of your's in the night,
Holding on to your dream tight.

I wanted you always around,
Day and night round
Was it just an infatuation?
If it was, then why i needed all your attention!

Was this love?
I wonder now!
You still make me feel special
Is this affection real!

If i had, made the move
How would it be now?
We would have been together
All the years forever!

There was no need for these lines,
If you had been mine
Everything would be just fine,
A Stitch in time, would have Saved nine.

Miss you !!!!

Miss the way, u call my name

The pain in the heart is, still the same.

You told its THE END.

I wished our love would, mend that END.

Still remember the day u walked away,

Tears rolled that day.

You told me, to be practical,

Dreaming about you, i became nocturnal,

You were the wind , beneath my wings,

Wanted to wear your wedding ring,

Its been a year now,

Still clinging on for that vow,

Waiting to be held by you,

Many more dreams in queue.